Feb 26, 2009

Slow down, you move to fast...

When planning to have kids, there's a ton of things people tell you: being pregnant is fun, giving birth blows, and when you see you're baby for the first time you'll fall in love harder than you ever thought possible.

There's also a ton of things people don't tell you. Well, I'm not going to spoil the fun for all you parents-to-be out there, but I will share with you the one word that has forced me to reconsider my entire life and the way I conduct it. Epidural. Patience.

You see, I am not a patient person by nature not by a long shot.

I've been in advertising for ten years which is a lick-ity split, chop-chop, make-it-happen industry. I've split my adult years living in Chicago and New York which are hardly epicenters for zen-minded people. When I want food, I get it delivered in 10 minutes. When I want to watch a movie, I order it On-Demand. When I want to shop, I walk 5 minutes to Soho or I log onto shopbop.com. There is simply no reason to be patient. 

Patience, according to Webster's online Dictionary means:  bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaint.

Since having Oliver, I've realized patience is the single most important quality a parent can have and also the single hardest quality to maintain. I'm not just talking patience when your baby has colic. That's cake.

I'm talking patience when you have the flu and you have to get up at 3am to comfort your teething baby despite your head ready to explode from snot. 

I'm talking patience when putting together crazy toys like exe-saucers and jumpers with all the buttons, batteries, straps and springs. 

I'm talking patience while in the grocery store checkout line and your baby decides to leave you a smelly, little treasure in his diaper. 

I'm talking patience when getting peed on right before you're about to go out for the night. 

I'm talking patience with every person and their mother who has an opinion on everything you do. 

I've gotten loads better than I used to be which isn't hard considering I had none to begin with. Today, I make dinner and marinate chicken over night. I let people pass me while walking down the street. And, after asking people how they're doing, I actually listen to the answer. I just don't see the point always being in such a hurry. 

I've got a few precious years with Oliver and I figure it's more than okay to simply take my time.  

And that's exactly what I'm going to do.

Thank you Oliver for teaching me the true meaning of patience. If it wasn't for you, life could have, and probably would have, passed me by.

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  1. Thanks for the bit of inspiration and also for letting me know I'm not alone in wishing I had more patience.
    Hope your Thursday is Thooper! (That made me laugh when I read it)

  2. Just wait - he's going to teach you SO MUCH MORE patience (through trial and error) that you will scarcely recognize yourself.

  3. Beautifully put! You have inspired me to be concious of that today....thank you! :) xoxo

  4. Oh man! I know EXACTLY what you are talking about! Living here in NY has robbed me of all patience too. My level of annoyance skyrockets if I have to wait two second for anything! I commend you in a big way!

  5. It's good to slow down and laugh about those getting peed on moments. My lil man is 3 and boy has he every taught me to be patient! I wrote about patience yesterday :)

  6. Great post. I think I could stand to slow down a little and take a bit more time for a lot more things!

  7. I come from a very long line of inpatient people. I try, but it's an effort. Every day it's an effort!

  8. Thankth for the thooper thursday! We sthlugs have been taking it nice and ssthlow. There is really no other way, if you are a slug. This was a great post! I bet Oliver rocks. Remember to treat yourself to a nice snuggle machine or love spa day!

  9. I love this post! So very true.

  10. Patience. This is the one thing that consistently shows me teaching is not the ideal career for me. Patience. I have none. It's awful, I know. And it's just not the kind of thing you can grow overnight.

  11. Patience is all about endurance and waiting. Its a good teacher. Loved your blog. Take care of Oliver. Isee a lot of responsibility.


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